No sex before marriage? Prof. Lew-Starowicz for “Wprost”: Not only religious motives
It happens that in the course of therapy, the real motives for avoiding sex before marriage are revealed. Obviously, this does not apply to genuine religious motives, principles and norms. I will only deal with the motives hidden from the partner, masked by the declared religion or other norms, e.g. “this is how I was brought up at home”.
So what could these hidden motives be? I will list the most common in my therapeutic experiences.
Homosexual orientation
You can be gay or lesbian and feel the need to create a “normal family” at the same time. Such a need may be genuine or motivated by the desire to hide one’s orientation, e.g. in order to pursue a political or party career, to be accepted by a homophobic environment, to satisfy parents’ expectations (really!), etc.
As you can see, the motives are varied, but one thing is common: revealing restraint in intimacy, avoiding premarital sex motivated by norms and situations that may lead to sex.
